Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Make the Holidays Romantic!

The holidays can be such a joyous time but its also a great opportunity to enhance the ROMANCE in your relationship and enjoy each other! The holidays are a time for family, friends and loved ones to get together. Its also the time for couples to meet each others families, friends and learn new things about each other- like traditions, favorite foods, places to go and what you must enjoy during the holidays. Take time during the holidays to really get to know each other if you are a new or budding couple and to rejuvenate your bond if you are married.

Holidays to end to make or break couples so try to make it stress free and fun for the two of you. Here are some tips on romantic things to do during the holidays:

* Decide to spend the holidays together. There is nothing like sharing special moments together especially the holidays. We talked about this in detail in my last blog.

* Drive instead of flying or taking the train or bus to your holiday destination. This gives you some alone time together to talk, explore the sights along the way and get to know a little bit more about each other on your road trip.

* Exchange gifts. Gift giving can be so special when the two of you consider what you have learned about each other and love about the person you are spending your holidays with. Make it something meaningful and endearing. A necklace, ring, bracelet or even a tie are nice gifts to give because its something you can wear close to your heart and others can admire. If you listen to your partner and their needs then gifts they don't expect like their favorite book or tickets to a play are always great too! Make sure you have a gift for Christmas day if you are celebrating it together... You don't want to embarrass each other by not giving each other a gift in front of the family and your friends when everyone else is exchanging gifts. Not a good look.

* Go sight seeing. If you are visiting each others families or friends and its a new destination for one or both of you, take a couple hours or a day to visit some sights or take each other to your favorite spots. Its always romantic to talk about each others childhood and experiences growing up over hot cocoa while walking around town holding hands. You get to learn a lot about each other during these moments and you also get to see some cool places you might not have had the opportunity to see before now! Side note: Don't take him/her to the same fave spots you used to take your exes. That is very unromantic :).
* Let it flow. Don't make yourself stick to a tight schedule. When you go back to your work and your everyday routine, that's fine but during the holidays try to relax, go with the flow and enjoy each moment you have together. Don't use this time either to bring up an argument or discussion you didn't finish that can cause tension. Talk about new and better things like the New Year, your feelings for each other, how much you are enjoying their company and your new baby cousin!
* Steal a moment alone. With the holidays going on the family is around, your friends are stopping by and the kids are screaming and running around. Take moment to steak a kiss, a moment looking at the stars together, or a quickie in your old bedroom (if you're married...giggles*). It will be fun, I promise!
* Introduce each other properly. I have seen couples get into arguments over introductions. The boyfriend introduces the girlfriend as simply a friend and they have been dating for 11 months. Make sure each other is clear about how you will introduce each other to the parents and do it with pride and a smile. The most awkward moment when meeting each others family is in the introduction. 
* Avoid picking arguments. Their is nothing worse than sharing a holiday with your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband and arguing the whole time. It crushes the holiday spirit and the motivation to be romantic with each other. If your boyfriends mom says something inappropriate laugh it off or walk away and talk about it later (or not at all if possible). If your girlfriends ex comes by the families house, introduce yourself and smile and look comfortable. Many arguments can be avoided if you take the high road and be the better person. You don't want to go to bed mad. Your mate might have had something romantic set up and you just ruined it by picking an avoidable fight.
* Be mindful of each other. With the hustle and bustle of the holidays it is easy to get caught up in the ruckus. Do not leave each other alone for extended periods of time. Be mindful of each other drinking alcohol and dietary needs. Fix each others plate. Sit beside each other at dinner time. Hold each others hand during prayer. Make a romantic gesture to each other during gift exchange. Take a shower together before you go to bed. Enjoy this moment together as much as possible. 





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