Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Happy Valentines to My Romancers!

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone! Thank you so much for your support and just like every holiday, each one is a chance to keep ROMANCE alive in your life and relationships but not never be limited by holidays!  Show your love and appreciation for your special someone every chance you get and have a ROMANTIC day!

Valentine's is one day...Love is everlasting. If you have not already picked up something special for your loved one, don't worry. Valentine's and ROMANCE is not just about gifts or how much money you spend its about your actions, words, and devotion. So if you haven't had a chance to go shopping do something different from the rest and write your special someone a love letter, go visit them on their job, send sexy text messages throughout the day to let them know you are thinking of them. You can make your special someone smile always with terms of endearment and acts of kindness much more than any gift can. Material things are not promised but you can always promise your love.

Monday, February 13, 2017

Valentines on a Budget- Its Possible!

Valentines is tomorrow and I received an inbox message that asked how can I do something ROMANTIC for Valentines on a limited budget. I love questions like this because its let me know that their are people out there who really want to keep the ROMANCE alive in their relationship and that they trust me to give them sound adv ice.

Valentines does not have to be an expensive day. Here are 10 budget ideas for Valentines day!

1. Cook for your special someone at home and have a candlelight dinner.
2. Give him/her a massage with dim lights, romantic movie and hot oils.
3. Go for a ride and check out some of the beautiful sights of your city. Pack a picnic basket of homemade treats and stop at your favorite spot to enjoy them.
4. Take a day off or an evening off together to just enjoy each others company.
5. Netflix and Chill. Pull out some of your favorite love stories, pop some popcorn, put on your sexiest lingerie or boxers and roll play your favorite love scenes or make one yourself.
6. Invite other couples over for game night. Have everyone bring a dish and enjoy the night with other couples and have fun! Adult games are always nice for the right crowd.
7. Grab a bouquet of flowers from your local grocer. Flower shops are usually more expensive so stop at the grocery store and pick up her favorite meal from a great carry out spot and surprise him/her at work for lunch for two!
8. Get the kids in the action and bake your special someone some sweet treats that can be used behind closed doors later like pudding, jello or strawberry shortcake! Moms always love a break from cooking or baking. 
9. Make him/her a creative video or write a poem telling them why you love them and post on your social media to let the world know how much you love them. If you are like me, I love public displays of affection. Be careful tho, not all do. If they aren't the PDA person, play the video for them in front of your fireplace or over the dinner you cook them. 

10. Plan a future trip together to take and clear your schedule to make it happen over wine and chocolates.  Nothing like something romantic and fun to look forward to while putting a smile on your special someone's face. 

These are just some of my ideas! I would love to hear your suggestions on my Facebook page at www.facebook.com/romancequeen101!

Thursday, February 2, 2017

My Favorite Holiday is Coming!

Yes I am a hopeless romantic! When it comes to Love I am all for it. That has been my motivation for this blog and keeping ROMANCE alive! One of the best days to show off your love for someone is Valentine's Day. Even though this is not the only day for you to show your love for your special someone or to bring some ROMANCE in your relationship, it is the most popular day for lovers and couples outside of your wedding and anniversary day!

Valentine's is not just for couples though and I said so to a friend the other day when they sadly said they always spend it alone. I know how that feels to not have a romantic partner on the biggest couple day of the year. However, I am a mother! In my blog last year I spoke about Valentine's being for kids too. You can check out that article here.  If you are a parent and you have the kids for Valentine's then why not plan something special and fun for you and the kids to do together. Its never too young to teach your son how to be a gentleman to a young lady or to teach your little princess how a true gentleman should treat her. Take your kids on a "date" and show them how its done! I've been teaching my twins romantic date tips since they could walk. 

I also suggested to my dear friend, that they take their mother out for Valentine's. Our parents gave us life and loved and raised us, so if both of your parents or available or just one, take advantage of Valentine's Day to do something extra special for them to let them know you appreciate them raising you and that you love them.  I like to take opportunities to do something for my mom since my dad is no longer with us. This is a good time to do something meaningful with your parent who has lost their loved one on this day. Take mom to the spa or dad to his favorite fishing hole. You can't go wrong doing something they love!

If you are single during Valentine's, most likely you have another single friend(s). Plan to do something together and enjoy Girls Night Out, a Singles mixer or a Bro night to the Gentleman's club. This year my fiance and I are going on our Valentine's Day date with the Drunk in Love Bar Crawl. Its not only for couples; its for singles too! You wear a red shirt if you are in love and a green shirt if you're single. It s a great way to meet other couples and singles right here in the Charlotte area. You should check it out here. If you're single, do not sit in the house getting high on ice cream and wine. Get your other single friends out and go have a blast. You never know. You might meet your forever Valentine while you're out (or in each other)!

Lastly, if you're single don't miss out on the opportunity to volunteer your time at your local shelter or family organization. Their are many families and single people living in shelters or getting assistance for various reasons who would love to see a fresh new friendly face bearing cake, candy and other little treats! My fiance regularly gets a group together to go to a nearby senior center for bingo and karaoke. He loves it and the seniors love him (especially the ladies). Spend your time meeting new people who would love a visit from you to brighten up their day even if just for a few moments!

Thursday, December 22, 2016

Have a Romantic Christmas Countdown!

Good morning everyone! I hope you are having a great start to your Christmas holiday. Even though I am not a big holiday person, I do know that the holidays are a great opportunity to be extra romantic.  If you haven't already planned something romantic and sweet for your special someone, its not too late.  Christmas is a time for family, friends, giving, and love! You can't have a complete Christmas without sharing it with the person you profess your love to. If you can't spend the actual holiday together, at least plan SOMEthing that you two can enjoy together.

Some suggestions:
* Plan breakfast in bed the morning of or the morning before.
* Exchange a small gift between the two of you in private.
* Plan a romantic dinner for just the two of you the night before or the night after.
* Go shopping with each other and make it a date while you're at it.
* Send Christmas cards to each other in the mail!
* Go for a drive to see the Christmas lights.
* Watch old Christmas movies snuggled on the couch with some wine and chocolates.

There are so many things you can do to spark some ROMANCE this Christmas. Always make time for passion in your relationship, even during the busy holiday! If you have some suggestions for a ROMANTIC Christmas, leave a comment below.

Monday, December 19, 2016

Yes Women Can Propose- Finale!

So in my last blog I mentioned that I took the leap and I proposed to my man.  The day started off as a normal Saturday and him and the kids and I got up to go shopping. We spent a day shopping and having good quality family time. One of the last stores we went to was Helzberg Diamonds. I love jewelry so I went in there to look at their sales. I looked at quite a few rings and I noticed that he was watching. The one I fell in love was a white sapphire ring and it was gorgeous! I love colored stones but this ring was unique. My daughter wanted to go to Books-A-Million so I went over there with her but my man stayed behind. Before I left him there, and being the nosy woman I am, I noticed THE ring was gone from the case. He shooed me away and I went to the book store with my daughter.

Now lets rewind... Him and I had a pretty emotional conversation about two weeks before and he admitted that there was a point that he wanted to ask me to marry him but that he was afraid (and for good reason {engaged before and disappointed} and {we hadn't been dating a year yet}). I knew in my heart that he was the ONE so I said to myself, hey why not propose to him and take the pressure off of him. We had been talking marriage. I knew he wanted to ask so I got excited immediately about asking him.

Fast forward. We left the mall and I knew that he had purchased the ring. So smiling, I put my plan into action to ask him. The ring I ordered for him 10 days before had come in the mail and was waiting for a special moment. I planned to ask him on my birthday, January 7th, but when we got home he said something similar to "I better love him" and something in my heart said its time to prove it to him. So my proposal came early. 

I got down on one knee in front of him and told him just how much I loved him and why. I think its always good to tell people why you love them when you say those three words because it validates the meaning even more. I could see fear and happiness in his eyes, so I hesitated but then I decided no. This is the RIGHT time. I got up off my wobbly old knees, dished for his ring in my drawer and straddled him on the bed. I told him that I had no doubt in my mind that I could be THE ONE for him and that I knew that he was the ONE for me despite our short courtship and despite his fears. I told him why I felt I was the one for him and then I presented the ring to him and asked him to marry me.

The look in his eyes was kind of scary, but he smiled with water on his eyes and he said yes! We kissed, hugged with joy and then the excitement began. Within an hour, pictures of his ring had been taken, his mom had been called and his best friend had been asked to be his best man! Then came his post to Facebook and the 300+ congratulation likes or comments!

All were happy for the actual engagement but of course their were some who had something to say about me actually doing it. Honestly, I was a little nervous about him announcing that I proposed to him but after the congrats came pouring in my nervousness died and was replaced with happiness. To feel the excitement and love in his words to his mom and his boys let me know I did the right thing at the right time by asking him. It didn't exactly go the way I planned with all the romance and mush I planned for my birthday but it was perfect!

I could have waited for my ring to come in and for him to ask me but I didn't. I followed my heart, relieved the stress off of his mind and did what worked for us and he was so proud that I took the initiative and asked him. Proud of my strength to do so despite the norm and was honored to tell everyone how proud of me he was that I stepped out the box.

And guess what...when my ring came in from being sized, he planned a magnificent day and proposed to me! Ladies, don't be afraid to propose to your man. It was a great experience for me and him and he respected me even more for loving him enough to do it. Happy Holidays from us to You!

To read the first blog to Yes! Women Can Propose start here http://romancequeen101.blogspot.com/2016/11/yes-women-can-propose-to-man-part-1.html.

Tuesday, December 13, 2016

Single During the Holidays- What to Do!

Every one has had a holiday where they are single. I know I have plenty of times. So what do you do when you want to go to holiday parties, travel or do holiday activities and you are single? A friend of mine on my Facebook blog page was asking the same question. Some of the men on the thread suggested themselves for company. A few other women responded they were asking themselves the same thing. I suggested doing activities with your friend girls or your lover. So what is the answer to being single during the holidays?

Here are some suggestions:
* Do what YOU enjoy! If you have been wanting to go visit your friend in another state or see your cousin you haven't seen in awhile or want to catch the latest movies out in the theatre or go on a shopping spree and spend all the money on yourself. Do something that YOU enjoy doing. What better time to do then the holidays when you are off for a couple of days?
* Do not be negative. Instead of thinking about the mate you don't have or what's not going the way you want, get into the holidays spirit and be grateful for what you DO have- your kids, healthy parents, a home, a job... Get into the holiday spirit and enjoy it by putting on your favorite holiday CD, cooking your favorite dishes, inviting your best friends over or visiting with different families.
* Go to a singles event. You are not the only one who is single during the holidays. Their are others just like you so try a singles event around the holidays and go out and meet new people.  Sometimes the benefit of being single is that you get to spend the holidays with who you want and as many people as you want. 
* Volunteer. Their are others that are less fortunate, don't have family to spend time with and are unable to enjoy Christmas because of their circumstances. You can change all that by volunteering at local shelters or organizations. Give back to your community during the holidays and spend time with people who will truly appreciate your presence.

That leads us to some benefits of being single:
1. You don't have to stress out about buying your special someone (SS) a romantic gift. Buy something for yourself!
2. You don't have to split time between their family and yours. You can go wherever you want!
3. You can invest more time in YOU. 
4. You don't have to worry about impressing your SS's family or friends!
5. You can flirt with whoever you want at all the holiday parties.
6. You can walk around holding the mistletoe and get all the holiday kisses without feeling guilty!
7. You can leave parties when you are ready!
8. You get to eat the last of the holiday desserts and you don't have to share! That includes the leftovers you have left.
9. You can catch up on sleep if you want to do absolutely nothing!
10. No one else can wreck your holiday mood!

These are just some of the benefits I wanted to highlight that looked great to me but they are many more benefits to being single during the holidays. Read this funny article http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/benefits-of-being-single-during-the-winter_us_564b7b39e4b08cda348b18f8.

Tuesday, December 6, 2016

Yes! Women Can Propose- I Did!

My last blog post listed reasons why people felt that women should NOT propose and I gave my reasons to why I think its absolutely ludicrous! As a woman who has been ready to settle down for several years, I do not feel that its wrong for a woman to propose. Some do and that's their right. However, me being me- all about women's equality, rights and taking my life into my own hands I feel that it is quite okay if I want to propose to the man I love and want to spend the rest of my life with. 

The decision to propose (male or female) is not about anyone else but YOU and YOUR mate. You have to know what type of partner you have and whether your relationship will suffer (mainly his ego crushed) if you, ladies, proposed to him. We don't ever want to do anything to offend, hurt, or emasculate the man we want to spend our lives with, so if you have a man that you know 1000% would be completely offended by your proposal you probably should wait for him to propose to you OR propose to him that he proposes to you like this bride did here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fxlyv-L6dpQ&t=148s (I highly suggest you start at 12;21 minutes...)

I searched the web for true life stories about women proposing to their man and I found a pretty awesome article here:

Eight Women Who Decided to Propose http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-35635591.

So guess what?! I did it! 

Stay tuned to read how it went down on my next blog!