Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Learn to Be a Gentleman

One thing I feel that is needed for a man to be romantic is to be a GENTLEMAN. Being a gentle man is being attentive to the needs of the women in your lives. Being a gentle man means being compassionate and understanding towards the special woman in your life. Being a gentle man means knowing her needs and wanting to meet those needs. Being a gentle man means being the man in the relationship and letting her be the woman by treating her like the Queen she is.

Being a GENTLEMAN includes opening and holding the door for your special someone wherever you go, including other women that you may surround you. Opening her car door is also a nice gentlemanly act that women are not used to anymore. I know me, dating someone with old school values has told me to not touch the door when I am with him because that is his job and even I sometimes have to catch myself and not reach for the door but its a gesture I appreciate it. 
Some other gentlemanly gestures that a man can do is to pick her up by going to the door to get her versus sitting in the car (my dad's request of any man I dated), pull her seat out for her when she goes to sit down, walking beside her not in front of her, and ordering off the menu for her (if she is okay with it). Being a gentleman can sometimes mean meeting her needs when she has a rough day such as cooking dinner, helping with the kids or letting her get the rest she needs at night. 
Being a gentleman is about being attentive to your special someone. Your special someone will reward you with a smile, a thank you, and even by being more attentive to your needs as well. Being a gentleman is not about monetary things, tho gifts are nice, but being a gentleman is all about the simple comforts that you can show towards your special someone. A gentleman is gentle in mannerisms, affections and support. All the results your display being a gentleman can lead to a very romantic night. It sets the tone for the evening and opens the door for intimacy. Yes some women like a little hardness in a man or a man that is rough around the edges but most women like a man who has a gentleman side to them and can appreciate it. If not, refer them to my last blog, Letter to Your Special Someone.

Guys if you need some more information on how to be a Gentleman, consider these links:

23 Behaviors of a Gentleman, http://aplus.com/a/23-behaviors-of-a-gentleman-for-2015
10 Things You Need to be a Gentleman, http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/10-things-you-need-gentleman.html
20 Things that Make a Man a Gentleman, http://www.thegentlemansjournal.com/20-things-make-man-gentleman/

As always in my blogs I like to share websites that catch my eye. Tonights searches led me to Bosch Car Service. I know as a woman, I love for my man to take care of my car, but sometimes ladies, we have to do it ourselves.  Enjoy your evening and love and appreciate your special Gentleman in your life.

In your comments below, please post what You do to show your Gentleman side.

Thursday, August 6, 2015

A Letter to YOUR Special Someone

Dear Special Someone,

Their are a lot of good men out here. Their are men out here who want to be loved. Their are men out here who can respect you. Their are men out here who will treat you like a Queen. But guess what, sometimes we as women make it hard for these men to be with us. Why? Because maybe you are so used to bad men that you don't know a good man when you see him. Maybe because you are so independent that you can't let a man be a man. Maybe because you've been abused in the past and you don't know how to trust. Maybe because you are tired of being hurt so you can't open your heart to someone else. Maybe because you have some unresolved baggage you need to take care like a baby daddy, ex lover, or just emotional leftovers from the last wrong dude. Whatever your issue is, wake up.
Don't let these bad men make you blind to the good man. What happened to you in the past is the past and you might be passing up the chance for a great future because of your pain, fear, mistrust, and PAST! Let it go. Take it from me. I was that girl holding on to pain but I never lost my love for ROMANCE. I deserve it. I crave it. I want it. I need it. We were made to be loved. God created us to be helpmates, partners, mates, nurturers. We were made from Adam's rib so we can't go through life without one. You can heal. You can get better. You can love again. Let a good man love you and ROMANCE you. 

Love is a wonderful thing. It opens the door for happiness in every aspect of our lives but it is also the motivation for ROMANCE. Many men do not believe in romance anymore or if they do, they don't exercise the opportunity to be romantic because of the women they are running into who are too proud, too unappreciative and have nasty attitudes about men who want to ROMANCE them. ROMANCE is not a sign of weakness. ROMANCE is not just a way for a man to get in your pants ladies. ROMANCE is a way to show you that he likes you, is willing to invest in your happiness by making you smile and ROMANCE is a way for him to show his love and admiration for you in more ways than one. 
So ladies, special someOne's...If a man comes to pick you up for a date with flowers, take them happily, thank him and let him know you appreciate them. When a man opens your door for you, holds your seat for you to sit or covers your head with his only umbrella, let him, thank him, and be confident that all these gestures are signs that he thinks YOU are SPECIAL. Don't make him feel like less of a man by calling him weak, soft or too nice. It takes a special kind of man to be romantic. He's strong-minded, capable, compassionate and most of all a protector of your heart. ROMANCE isn't for weaklings. its for a King.

Romance Queen

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