Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Single and Romantic Dating Group

I have many singles who are also hopeless romantics like me. So I started a Single & Romantic group on Facebook for those who are single and actively dating. This group will give singles dating and singles tips plus it will be a great way to meet singles online who also want ROMANCE in their lives. Just because you are single doesn't mean that you can't be romantic when you are dating. I know that I appreciate a romantic man and a romantic man will get my attention over a man who is not romantic. Its the little things that count when you are dating such as texts to say I am thinking about you, the initiative to ask me out on a date, wanting to spend time with me, flowers when I open the door for you to pick me up, holding my hand as we walk into a restaurant, feeding me dessert and many other romantic gestures. 
Some people are not comfortable being romantic while they are dating or do not know the right time to be romantic when dating. But their are levels to being romantic when you are dating and you just have to decide what level you are on with the person you are dating to know how romantic you can be. You also have to gauge your ROMANCE while dating on the person you are dating too. We will discuss this in my next blog. 

So when you are single and dating you can still be romantic. That is what my new Facebook group is about. To join the group, you need to add me on Facebook. See my blog introducing my Facebook page here. Once you do this and I accept, send me an inbox message saying you want to be added to the Singles & Romantic group and I will add you. Once in the group, you will see the introduction and singles introducing themselves in the group. Please introduce yourself as soon as possible with a photo so you can start networking with other singles who are also looking for ROMANCE. I will post links regularly to my blog for you to comment on and share dating and romance tips! Its going to be a fun group and I promise you will enjoy it in an environment that is focused on having a great time while you are looking for your special someone. I am looking forward to getting to know you in the group and sharing great romantic dating tips with you. Until then, have an awesome ROMANTIC day!
Some dating sites you might be interested in are here. Sign up for a few and increase your chances of meeting great people in your area and practicing the romantic dating tips from the group. Happy dating!


Tuesday, January 26, 2016

Romance Can Cure a Bad Relationship

I have been talking to couples about my ROMANCE challenge and have heard some disturbing responses. Some are "we don't have romance in our marriage, no thanks." "I am tired of my mate," or "We have too many other problems to work on." My response to them is that's even more reason to join my ROMANCE Challenge! ROMANCE is not just for those who are doing great in their relationship and have no problems. ROMANCE is for every couple that is invested each other. ROMANCE is for couples who care about each other and who want to keep their relationship thriving and strong. ROMANCE is not for just strong couples but new, old, and struggling. ROMANCE can be the start of a cure for your relationship because ROMANCE is about showing each other how much you care about each other, what each other means to the other, your love and affection for each other, how attracted you are to your mate, your devotion to make them smile, and a way for you to show your appreciation for the one you love or committed to. It can also heighten your intimacy and sexual relationship. 
I've said this many times before but I am not an expert. However, I love everything ROMANCE so I am constantly doing research on every topic I post, reading articles, books and pulling from my own relationships to share with you what I know about ROMANCE to keep ROMANCE alive for you and yours and for those who haven't had the pleasure of experiencing yet a chance to try something wonderful for their relationship. ROMANCE can lead to a deeper connection, communication, fun and excitement. It can lead to more quality time together, new memories, and something to cherish for years and years to come. ROMANCE is something your children, family, friends and everyone around you can witness in you and you can enjoy together! 
ROMANCE can be like therapy when you've had hard week, need a vacation, or just miss your
special someone. Remember no time is a bad time to be romantic, so ROMANCE is up to You to want and get if your relationship means anything to you. If you are reading my blog, the interest is there so why not challenge yourself to improving the ROMANCE in your marriage even if its not perfect or good. What could you possibly lose by showing someone how much you love and/or care for them? At least you can say you tried and no one can fault you for that but if you don't try then you won't know. Try ROMANCE. I promise you will enjoy it!


Sunday, January 24, 2016

Keeping Romance Alive 2016 Challenge for Couples

Starting in February, I will be launching a ROMANCE Challenge to several couples who have agreed to read my blog faithfully together and follow the many tips that I write about. I am really excited about this challenge and looking forward to hearing all the many experiences and joys the couples will relay back to me. Last year I focused on building my blog. This year I want to focus on reaching people who actually believe in ROMANCE and this is one fun I plan to do it.

I want to also host a challenge for dating singles to help enhance their romance levels while dating and looking for a mate. I can't wait for all that 2016 will have to offer and super siked about working with people to keep ROMANCE alive! 

Stay tuned for some stories from my couples. If you are interested in joining the challenge, please email me at along with a picture. 

Thursday, January 21, 2016

You Can Be Romantic Everyday

Since it is a new year, we are starting off fresh, so its important to review what we have already talked about regularly at and to find ways to be romantic everyday. Being consistent is key to keeping ROMANCE alive!
I came up with a list of ways to consistently be romantic and you can do them everyday:
1. Consider your special someone in everything you do. When you wake up in the morning, go to bed, when you are on your way from work and stop for a bite to eat, when you are making major decisions, planning a vacation, etc. Think about the special someone in your life and include them in all aspects of your life. This should be a given if you are married, but it needs to be said because someone people are selfish in their marriages and do not consider their spouse in their everyday thinking. If you are not a the point where you feel comfortable including the person you are dating, then try to discuss your day with the person you are dating so they feel included in your life even if they are not committed to you.
2. Say I love you. When you care about someone you say it, so if you love your mate, then try to say it at least once a day or more. I don't think you can ever get tired of hearing someone say I love you (unless its not genuine or recriprocated). If you haven't quite reached the "I love you" phase yet then telling the person you care about regularly what they mean to you and how you feel regularly is equally important.
3. Let your special someone know you are thinking about them. It only takes 5 seconds to say "I am thinking about you." With busy lives and home life, sometimes we forget to breathe and share a moment with our special someone, so whenever you get a breather, take the time to let your special someone know you are thinking about them. Side note: When you take a break from work or on vacation or even in traffic and let someone know that you are thinking about them, it means even more that you took the time out of your hechtic life or your down time to think about someone and tell them. That shows appreciation and commitment on your end and also that they are special enough to interrupt your thoughts, even if for a moment.
4. I mentioned it earlier in #1, but I will stress this again: Talk about each others day. Life can be stressful and sometimes we just need someone to vent to. We should be able to do this with our special someone or our marriage mate. Talk about your day, whether good or bad and be a listening ear to each other.

5. Always plan your next time together. If you live together, then make sure you plan a date night ( to spend quality time together away from the kids and your normal routine. If you do not live together, always have a next time in planning for when you are going to see each other again.
6. Say good morning and good night to each other. I know when I wake up and see a good morning text or get a good morning call from the person I am dating, it makes me smile if not blush and starts my day off in a ROMANTIC mood. Saying goodnight is even better, because that is the last person I talk to before I fall in sleep and it leads for a great dream and restful sleep to hear his voice before I go to bed.

These are just some ways for you to keep ROMANCE alive all year. I hope that you try some of my suggestions and create new ways of your OWN to keep the ROMANCE alive in your relationship and life all year. Please share how you keep the ROMANCE alive in your relationship and enjoy!

Snow is coming!

Hello everyone!  The weather is showing that we are going to get snow from NC to WVA to MD to DC. I love the snow especially when it means that I can stay inside in the bed cuddled up with my someone special.
Usually the snow means the kids stay out of school,  so make the best of time with the kids and sneak some time in with your mate.
Snow can be the scene for a romantic time with hot chocolate,  movies,  cuddling on the couch (or bed) and being close to each other to relax and enjoy. 
Remember there is ALWAYS an opportunity to be ROMANTIC. Take advantage of the snow coming and plan ahead to do something ROMANTIC with your mate (while keeping the kids busy).

Romance Queen

Good morning!

I hope you had a great weekend and an awesome MLK day!  This is a great month to start planning for Valentine's Day next month!  I will start counting down February 1st with you.
Valentine's is my favorite holiday so I'm super excited about it. Wishing you a great Tuesday! 

You're Romance Queen,

Thursday, January 7, 2016

Be Random and Just Do It

Sometimes we overthink things. Will they like this? Is this the right time? Is this too much? Can they take off work? Sometimes we think ourselves out of a ROMANTIC thought and then its gone. Sometimes, just do yourself a favor and BE RANDOM! JUST DO IT!

If you've been dating someone for a while or married, you know what things your partner likes. If it comes to your mind and makes you smile, then most likely it will make them smile too. It never hurts to try something new to get the reaction you hope to get. It is also okay, to take a chance at doing something YOU have never done that you know they have been wanting to do. One of the best surprises, has been when someone takes me to a place they didn't particularly want to go but we had a ball together because we did it together. Sometimes we have to go outside our comfort zone to make new memories and it also shows the person that we are with that we are willing to try things they enjoy too. Its the unselfish act of doing something out your norm that can be ROMANTIC in itself. 
Another way you can be random is to be SPONTANEOUS. If you and your mate are taking a ride, take the scenic route, stop on the side of the road, and enjoy the view together. You're on your way home from work, stop at the florist, pick your own bouquet of flowers (so you can say you did it yourself for extra points) and give them to your sweetheart when you get home. He's tired when he gets home from work, run a hot shower for him, give him a massage when he gets out, and whip him up his favorite meal while you hand him the remote. Being spontaneous is all about stealing the moment and going with it. 
You can also be random by lowering your inhibitions. Do something unexpected, like running in the rain, going skinny dipping, wearing bright colors, or taking a helicopter ride in the park (and you've never flown before). 

We hold back a lot from doing things because we are afraid people might think we are crazy or weird or embarrassed but you can lose out on some pretty amazing adventures if you are always worried about what Harry or Sally will think. You never know, they might just join you in the craziness like a flash mob. 

Whatever the case, if something great and ROMANTIC pops in your head that you haven't done in a while or haven't done before, go for it and JUST DO IT. The only thing that can happen is that they don't like it and you just don't do it again but I am sure that if it pops in your head its something you have an idea they would love and or enjoy or both, so BE RANDOM and go for it!

Now if you do NOT really know the person you are dating or interested in, you might want to get to know them a little first before taking them to Mardi Gras or to see the Chip n Dales (pretty random). However, their are random things you can do that everyone enjoys like a delivery of Edible Errangements, a surprise lunch date, or text that says I'm thinking of you. You never know, your random act just might be the thing that really draws them in and catches their attention and lead to more ROMANCE for the two of you.

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

Romance Queen is on Social Media!

Hello all! 2016 is going strong and I have added my blog to Twitter! Check out the other sites we are on:

Follow me at @romancequeen101 on Twitter

I am also on Facebook at 

You can also find us on LinkedIn at

    And last but not least Pinterest

    Tuesday, January 5, 2016

    Happy New Years

    Welcome to 2016. In the next couple of weeks I will be changing the look of my blog to start off the new year right. I hope that everyone had an awesome New Years and have started 2016 off in a romantic mood. New Years was perfect for me! I spent it with the man I have been dating and we had a nice romantic night at home, just the two of us.
    Being with your friends and families during the holiday is so important but even more importantly is spending the holidays with someone you love. New Years brings on new beginnings, new experiences, new adventures (as my father would say) and new opportunities to bring ROMANCE into your relationship- new or old. Romance is fun, exciting, adventurous and a great way to show your interest, affection and adoration for the person you are dating or married to.
    Let's review 2015 highlights and please take a moment to read the highlighted links to refresh:
    * One of the Keys to Romance was the fact that ANYTIME was the RIGHT time to be romantic. You do not need a special occasion to be romantic. Just do it! Have fun with ROMANCE and don't worry about the right time to be romantic because every second, minute, hour and day is the right time (even when you might be mad at each other).
    *Being romantic is all about showing how much you CARE. Their are many ways to show how much you care for someone and two of those ways are making time for your special someone and communicating your feelings and desires and using communication to learn about each other. Caring is Sharing equals to your actions backing up your words.
    * Look in the mirror and found out just how romantic you are, if their is room to improve, and if you can raise the bar on ROMANCE in your relationship. Sometimes we look at the other person to be romantic first. That's not necessary. Take the initiative and try some ROMANCE. You might be pleasantly surprised at the reaction.
    * If you are not romantic and ready to stat being romantic with your partner in 2016, I did a crash course on Becoming Romantic. Check it out! I promise you its easy.
    * Being a GENTLEMAN is a sure way to start off being a romantic man. Chivalry is not dead, yet I hear it all the time from my girlfriends who are dating (or even married). Open the door for your woman getting in and out the car, going into buildings and other places where you might go together. Pull her seat out for her when you sit down to eat. Help her up the steps when she's wearing those high heels you like. Being a gentleman is a old fashioned traditional way to show that you care, appreciate and honor the woman you are with.
    * I also took the time to write A Letter to the women who give gentleman a hard time when they are trying to do something nice for whatever reason. Its been a turn off to a lot of men (more than I thought) and its made men not want to be romantic or go the extra mile to do something nice for the women they date.  I got good reactions from the men and women on Facebook about this one. Take a moment to read it and respond. Would love to hear Your feedback.
    * I also discussed the importance of DATE NIGHT. Making time for each other was mentioned above and so important not only to experience ROMANCE but also to keep your relationship thriving and alive. Without TIME and communication, your relationship can not be enhanced or grow. Its impossible. Date night is very important even if its only once a month. MAKE TIME FOR DATE NIGHT for you and your special someone away from the kids and make it a part of your regular lives. One thing about being romantic, is that it gets better with consistency, so making time on a regular is key.
    *  We mentioned COMMUNICATION above but I stressed the importance of COMMUNICATION in more depths. Many relationships end for a couple reasons and COMMUNICATION is one of them. You need to be able to express your wishes, fears, problems, emotions and so much more whether verbally or nonverbally. Talking constantly about everything from what's for dinner tonight to buying a home (check out is important. But communicating is not just about words, another way to COMMUNICATE is through your actions, as mentioned earlier. So make time for DATE NIGHT and COMMUNICATING with each other. It could save your relationship (or marriage).
    * Learn how to be INTIMATE. So many times people confuse intimacy with sex but intimacy is so much more than sex. Its the way you lovingly look at each other, a gentle touch, a kiss on the neck, or the way you care for someone when their sex. Intimacy is lacking in a lot of relationship and one of the reasons women give for having affairs. Sex is great but its even greater when it is combined with genuine intimacy between two people who sincerely love and care for one another.

    These are just a few of the highlights that I gathered from 2015. What was your favorite blog post and which one was MOST helpful to you?

    I look forward to sharing more with you in 2016 and keeping ROMANCE alive in your hearts and in your relationships.  Thank you for your support!


    Romance Queen

    Make the Holidays Romantic!

    The holidays can be such a joyous time but its also a great opportunity to enhance the ROMANCE in your relationship and enjoy each other! The holidays are a time for family, friends and loved ones to get together. Its also the time for couples to meet each others families, friends and learn new things about each other- like traditions, favorite foods, places to go and what you must enjoy during the holidays. Take time during the holidays to really get to know each other if you are a new or budding couple and to rejuvenate your bond if you are married.

    Holidays to end to make or break couples so try to make it stress free and fun for the two of you. Here are some tips on romantic things to do during the holidays:

    * Decide to spend the holidays together. There is nothing like sharing special moments together especially the holidays. We talked about this in detail in my last blog.

    * Drive instead of flying or taking the train or bus to your holiday destination. This gives you some alone time together to talk, explore the sights along the way and get to know a little bit more about each other on your road trip.

    * Exchange gifts. Gift giving can be so special when the two of you consider what you have learned about each other and love about the person you are spending your holidays with. Make it something meaningful and endearing. A necklace, ring, bracelet or even a tie are nice gifts to give because its something you can wear close to your heart and others can admire. If you listen to your partner and their needs then gifts they don't expect like their favorite book or tickets to a play are always great too! Make sure you have a gift for Christmas day if you are celebrating it together... You don't want to embarrass each other by not giving each other a gift in front of the family and your friends when everyone else is exchanging gifts. Not a good look.

    * Go sight seeing. If you are visiting each others families or friends and its a new destination for one or both of you, take a couple hours or a day to visit some sights or take each other to your favorite spots. Its always romantic to talk about each others childhood and experiences growing up over hot cocoa while walking around town holding hands. You get to learn a lot about each other during these moments and you also get to see some cool places you might not have had the opportunity to see before now! Side note: Don't take him/her to the same fave spots you used to take your exes. That is very unromantic :).
    * Let it flow. Don't make yourself stick to a tight schedule. When you go back to your work and your everyday routine, that's fine but during the holidays try to relax, go with the flow and enjoy each moment you have together. Don't use this time either to bring up an argument or discussion you didn't finish that can cause tension. Talk about new and better things like the New Year, your feelings for each other, how much you are enjoying their company and your new baby cousin!
    * Steal a moment alone. With the holidays going on the family is around, your friends are stopping by and the kids are screaming and running around. Take moment to steak a kiss, a moment looking at the stars together, or a quickie in your old bedroom (if you're married...giggles*). It will be fun, I promise!
    * Introduce each other properly. I have seen couples get into arguments over introductions. The boyfriend introduces the girlfriend as simply a friend and they have been dating for 11 months. Make sure each other is clear about how you will introduce each other to the parents and do it with pride and a smile. The most awkward moment when meeting each others family is in the introduction. 
    * Avoid picking arguments. Their is nothing worse than sharing a holiday with your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband and arguing the whole time. It crushes the holiday spirit and the motivation to be romantic with each other. If your boyfriends mom says something inappropriate laugh it off or walk away and talk about it later (or not at all if possible). If your girlfriends ex comes by the families house, introduce yourself and smile and look comfortable. Many arguments can be avoided if you take the high road and be the better person. You don't want to go to bed mad. Your mate might have had something romantic set up and you just ruined it by picking an avoidable fight.
    * Be mindful of each other. With the hustle and bustle of the holidays it is easy to get caught up in the ruckus. Do not leave each other alone for extended periods of time. Be mindful of each other drinking alcohol and dietary needs. Fix each others plate. Sit beside each other at dinner time. Hold each others hand during prayer. Make a romantic gesture to each other during gift exchange. Take a shower together before you go to bed. Enjoy this moment together as much as possible.