Monday, April 25, 2016

Tribute to Prince

It was shocking when I got a text from a friend girl of mine telling me that Prince had died. At first I was like is this another social media scheme but then this was Prince we were talking about. He wasn't an artist that did schemes and he was definitely not one that you heard negative media about so as I opened my Facebook and saw all the posts about Prince dying, I knew it was true. This was one of the post I shared on my page, http://www.billboard.com/articles/news/7341522/prince-dead.



Prince was a very private man but one thing about Prince that I adored was that he was a very sensual, passionate, loved by many, had fans from all ages and cultures, believed in God and made music that everyone could identify with. He had a lot of great songs but he also made a lot of ROMANTIC/Love songs such as (in no particular order):
1. Adore
2. If I was Your Girlfriend- my all time favorite Prince song!
3. When 2 Are in Love
4. The Beautiful Ones
5. Purple Rain
6. When Doves Cry
7. Condition of the Heart
8. Forever in My Life
9. The One
10. Do Me Baby
11. Girl
12. Insatiable
13. Scandalous
14. The Passion


some celebrity tributes that were very touching were on CNN http://www.cnn.com/2016/04/21/entertainment/celebrities-react-prince-death/index.html and Saturday Night Live http://www.nbcnews.com/pop-culture/tv/prince-honored-special-saturday-night-live-tribute-hosted-jimmy-fallon-n561161.


Please share your reaction to Prince's passing here in comments.

Friday, April 15, 2016

Let's Talk About Sex Finale

We are closing out our topic on S-E-X but of course this won't be the last time we talk about sex because intimacy and sex and romance go together like strawberries wine and massages. I asked a question before in my post on alternative sex about something I like personally and its time to let you know exactly what that is but before finishing out this topic, we MUST talk about SAFETY. When it comes to sex, we must always have a conversation about sex. According to AIDS.gov as of 2014, twelve million people have been infected with the HIV virus and 1 in 8 people who have it are unaware that they have the virus. Among these numbers, Blacks are still the most affected race. However the most affected group is still men who sleep with men. For more statistics on HIV read https://www.aids.gov/hiv-aids-basics/hiv-aids-101/statistics/.


HIV/AIDS is not the only disease that we need to be careful of. Their are also STDs such as gonorrhea, syphilis, HPV, herpes, trichomoniasis, and other infections. You can read on these at http://www.cdc.gov/std/healthcomm/fact_sheets.htm. Chlamydia has been on the rise as of the 1014 statistics reported on the CDC website along with syphilis, http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats14/std-trends-508.pdf.
STDS and HIV is nothing to play with. We want to make sure that we are protected at all times. So if you are considering having sex with someone, it would be a good practice for you BOTH to get tested and wait for the results before you have sex. Even if you get negative results, you should still wear protection such as condoms and other barriers to prevent the spread of diseases until you agree and have proven to each other that you can be monogamous. If you are like me and have a sensitive vajayjay then you will want to seek out condoms that fit the chemsitry of your body. For me, the Skyn brand works because it is not made of latex. I make sure to get my partner tested before we have sexual intercourse and use protection until we have negative results and before we enter into a monogamous relationship. once in a monogamous relationship, its good to continue getting tested together every six months or a year just because and for your peace of mind.


Always use protection with new partners and always get tested before having sex with someone new. Remember that some infections and diseases take weeks to show on tests so you want to abstain from sex with new partners until you BOTH have negative rest results. If you are sleeping with multiple people, please use protection. You can't guarantee what all of you are doing, so be safe and stay protected with everyone you engage with. Not knocking you for what you do, just asking you to stay when you do it!



So lets lighten the mood a little with my big reveal!
What do I love that might be seen as alternative?


Hmm... I love bondage. Even before 50 Shades of Grey (rent it for date night) I was turned on by the thought of being dominated and bonded. Something about giving in to someone and giving them control over my senses and my body turns me on. Bondage is not for the weak however. People think that submissives are weak but they aren't. The submissives actually have the power in the relationship just as much if not more than the dominate. I love the fact that for a moment I can give myself to someone and trust someone and just let go and be free and follow someone else's lead for that period of time. Its stimulating, exciting, passionate, and very ROMANTIC if done with the right person. I've been able to submit to one person in my lifetime totally and it is an experience I will never forget. I also encourage it for married couples to try it at least once. Its an experience that will take you to new levels and help you to learn each other all over again, trust each other even more, and renew the passion and spice in your relationship that always can use a refresher!


So there it is... I like silk scarves and feathers and a sexy man that likes to take control. ROMANCE 101! Yes! To learn more about the art of bondage visit http://theartofsubmission.com/bdsm-for-beginners/ and https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLC7028CB2B51E9EE6. Let me know what you think! I hope you enjoyed the topic, Let's Talk About Sex! I know I did and your feedback has been great! Have an awesome weekend, be safe, and try something new with your partner this weekend!






Saturday, April 9, 2016

Congrats to Romance Queen Readers!

March and the 1st Couple of the Month due to our 2016 Couples Challenge started in January (more info here) is Lakisha Hagler and Kaycee Steele of Charlotte, NC. Lakisha and Kevin have been together going on two years year and met online. I have known Kevin for over a year now and Lakisha for about nine months and ever since I have known them as a couple I have admired their open affection, love and respect for each other on their Facebook page. When it comes to social media, couples and men in particularly do not like to broadcast their relationships (for various reasons) but this couple has used Facebook to show how powerful their love is even when they had haters. Its hard not to vote for a couple who is constantly expressing their love for each other, posting pics of each other and complimenting each other. I have never seen them say one negative thing about each other online and that is the way it should be- ALWAYS. I definitely could learn from them. They have also been very open to trying new ideas and taking the challenges posted in the Couples Challenge group to enhance their relationship and add romance to their relationship.
When asked what is the most moment thus far in their relationship Lakisha was able to give me two and both of them involved surprising each other on mini vacations. She surprised him with a 7 day cruise but not before requesting time off at his job for him and taking him for a drive to nowhere and keeping her mouth closed about the destination the whole time. She said for her, he surprised her for her last birthday by taking her on a mini weekend vacation to TN and when they arrived at the hotel they had a welcome sign especially made for her that was displayed all weekend and throughout the whole weekend she received little gifts and special attention from him and the hotel staff including pamper time at the hotels spa! Mr. Kevin sure does know how to plan a ROMANTIC birthday for his special lady. AS my gift to them, the two will enjoy a dinner for two at Chima Brazilian Steakhouse in the Queen City and enjoy a ROMANTIC night on the town. Thank you Lakisha and Kevin for your support and for being an example of love and ROMANCE for all who are witness to you!  Its not to late to join the Couples Challenge. To do so, add me on Facebook and send me a message. 



I also want to congratulate our 1st Facebook contest winner, Yvette Thurston for the best Romantic At-Home idea! To see her idea and others ideas visit my Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/romancequeen101. Yvette shared a fun fact about her and her new hubby: They got married exactly one year from the day they met on January 9, 2016! Now isn't that ROMANTIC?! Wow! Thank you Yvette for always being supportive of me and my blog and for being sexy, spicy in your marriage and keeping ROMANCE alive 365 days a year! Yvette will receive a goodie bag tailored to fit her best ROMANTIC At-Home idea... wink*


This is just the beginning of the many features that will be shared about my readers and people like You who are hopeless ROMANTICS like me and want to share my mission to Keep ROMANCE Alive 365 days a year! If you want personal ROMANCE advice please email me at romance101queen@gmail.com. I would love to hear from you. Have a great weekend!

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

Let's Talk About Sex- LGBT

In our last blog post on alternative lifestyles we talked about swingers, polyamory, and open relationships. We can not have this conversation about sex without talking about another alternative lifestyle that was mentioned in my poll- LGBT- lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender.   The LGBT community is growing and I am all about free love. I used to be an advocate in the LGBT community and though I won't say that is in the past, I am not as active in the community as I used to be. However, that does not mean that I am not supportive. With the passing of marriage laws in NC, DC, NY and other States and the newest laws that are trying to be passed regarding the use of public bathrooms for transgender individuals, the LGBT community is one that can not and will not go unnoticed. 


Its something about being open to loving whomever you want that is sexy and ROMANTIC to me. I am not saying that being LGBT is right or wrong. This is not a debate of morals. This is a blog about ROMANCE. I believe in LOVE and ROMANCE and when it comes to LOVE and ROMANCE, I see it all the time in the passion and the LOVE and the power I witness within the LGBT community all the time.

The LGBT movement is passionate and passion is an ideal ingredient to ROMANCE. Is ROMANCE different in LGBT relationships? I don't think that ROMANCE is necessarily different but I do think that the degree and the frequency of it is. Meaning, LGBT couples seem to have more of an appreciation for each other more because of the "bond" they share because of their sexuality and appreciate that bond from the gate. Because of this, they approach their relationship differently and thus try harder, invest more, express themselves more articulately and do not have the gender role confusion that sometimes causes problems in heterosexual relationships. For instance, some women in heterosexual relationships feel that men should initiate the romance. Men feel that women don't appreciate romance so they stop being romantic to the next. With two women, they are both more emotional, both more appreciative, both more longing for passion and love thus both more willing and more receptive to being ROMANTIC and expressing it. I'm not a man, so I can't say about two men but here was an interesting article, http://www.gaytherapyla.com/gay-mens-relationships-ten-ways-differ-straight-relationships/. You can express your thoughts about it in your comments below. 

The LGBT community is becoming more and more acceptable and I see it like this- whatever floats your boat let it float. This is how I feel about Life, period. If you love a woman and you're a woman, love them. If you love a rhino, love them in a pool of water. If you love a polka dot monster, show them off in Uptown Charlotte! Love who you love with Pride and ROMANCE them with all you have in You.


Interesting reads:
http://dating.lovetoknow.com/what-are-differences-between-gay-straight-relationships
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathy-gottberg/what-straight-couples-can_b_6671184.html


Sunday, April 3, 2016

Let's Talk About Sex- Alternative Lifestyles

 Its Spring Break time and I hope that everyone is enjoying their time with the kids!

We've been talking about S-E-X for a couple weeks and having a great time! I've gotten a lot of feedback and enjoying the responses from my readers. Even though this topic is coming to an end, we will not stop talking about sex. I just wanted to take time to focus on it because it is one of the rewards of being ROMANTIC and it is also very important to every successful relationship. However, I can't end this topic without talking about two great subjects: ALTERNATIVE LIFESTYLES and our LGBT family!




When I speak of alternative lifestyles and sex in the same sentence what do you think of? Some of the answers from readers are posted on my Facebook and LinkedIn page. Some of their answers were: swinger, swapping, gay, open relationship, transsexual among some of the answers. These are definitely some of the ones I wanted to cover so lets do it

Before we start this conversation, I want to first say that if you are a part of a couple, please explore these alternative sexual lifestyles WITH YOUR PARTNER. Do not go exploring these on your own. That is cheating and I do not want to be responsible for that at all. If you are single, then please explore these options responsibly and safely.

I am not going to spend a lot of time on each lifestyle choice but will give you resources for you to explore each one on your own.


1) SWINGERS
Swingers are people/couples who have sex with multiple people at the same time according to the Urban Dictionary. Wikipedia defines it as engaging in consensual sexual relationships with with others as a recreational activity or social activity. Some couples swing to add variety to their marriage. Others engage in swinging to explore fantasies. Others see it as a safe way to carry out their high sex drive and others use swinging as a way to enhance or strengthen their relationship. Swinging is NOT for everyone and couples need to have a strong foundation in order to engage in the swinger lifestyle. They also need to have trust and respect for each other BEFORE they enter into the swinger lifestyle. They should also commit to doing it TOGETHER. As a single person, swinging can be a great way to explore sexual fantasies, have sex in a safe environment, meet people with the same sexual appetite and enjoy sex in an environment that is non-judgmental (for the most part).  To learn more about the swinger lifestyle, start at the Swingers Underground website at  http://www.swingersunderground.com/cgi-bin/linkslifestyle.asp
If you are in North Carolina, a great group to get your fantasies met can start with Carolina Friends. You can learn about them at http://carolinafriends.com/. 


2) OPEN
An open relationship is when a couple decides that even though they are in a relationship with each other, they are not sexually monogamous to each other, according to about relationships. This is different from swingers. They do not openly have sex with multiple people together, or group sex or see it as a recreational activity (or maybe they do) but they are committed to each other but do not expect monogamy from each other. They may not play together like a swinger couple does but they are accepting that each other might engage in sexual activity with another person and its okay with them. This works for some couples and I understand it. For some couples, this is a way to reduce "cheating" stress or worry in the relationship. For others, this is a way to allow their partner to explore desires they are not interested in. However, this is not a form of cheating because the couple AGREES to this arrangement. Here are some good open relationship tips http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a6121/open-relationship-tips/.

3) POLYAMORY
Polyamory is the practise of loving more than one person simultaneously. Their are many ways to live polyamorously. This is different from being swingers or an open relationship. Polyamorous couples are dedicated to each other and can cohabitate together, raise children together, sleep in the bed together, and run a household together and live in harmony under one roof happily. Their can be one wife and two husbands. One husband and three wives. Two wives and two husbands or two wives and six husbands. Poly means many so being polyamourous means loving mean at one time.
To learn more about living a polyamory lifestyle visit the Polyamory Society at http://www.polyamorysociety.org/.



Next we will talk about a subject I myself am into... Can you think what it is??? You have to stay tuned to find out!