Romance Queen

So when the subject of women proposing comes up the conversation gets pretty heated and emotional. What is the big deal about women proposing to men? Well for most, its not the traditional way. Ever since the beginning of time, the expectation was that the man would court the woman and the woman would wait for the man to pursue her and blah blah blah. Those times are gone! Women are more aggressive these days and not afraid to express interest in a man.  Yes, traditionally the man proposed to the woman, but that was tradition. Tradition is always in the past. This is 2016 going on 2017. Some things in the past are no longer seen as the norm and for women, choosing a mate and who she marries is her choice. Not her parents. Not the church. Hers. Women are no longer asking for their parents opinion on who to marry. They meet a guy. They date said guy. They commit to said guy. They fall in love and when they get engaged, they tell their parents.  People also like to throw u...

So I've had the discussion online, namely Facebook, about women proposing to men. The conversation got pretty heated and it was very frustrating for me to see so many men who felt like a man on the receiving end of a proposal as "weak" or "less of a man" if he accepted. It also pissed me off to see women, otherwise very strong women, saying that a woman must be "desperate" or "weak" or "pressed" to ask a man to marry her. Our daughters are being raised to be strong-minded, independent, goal and career-oriented Queens. We teach them to respect themselves, wait for the right boy/man to give their goodies to and to follow her dreams. If we can teach her all these things, how can we frown on her also choosing her husband and lifelong partner. I have been proposed to probably nine times that I can think of off the top of my head. I have also been married before to a man that proposed to me almost every month before I finally said yes a...

This time last year I spent the holidays with friends even though I was in an exclusive relationship. The person I was dating didn’t bother to invite me to his family’s house for the holidays. It was a miserable feeling.  Even though I am not big on holidays, this time of the year can be melancholy for lot of people who are in bad relationships, broken homes, live far from family or are single.  I understand the feeling. I felt the disappointment of not being with the one I felt I should have been with. Thankfully for great friends, I got plates delivered to me while I had a nice romantic-me day at home with movies, bottles of wine and lots of much needed rest. Trust me, it wasn’t a depressing day after I realized that being with myself was better than being with someone who really didn’t want me around despite his professed love. Well this year is different. This year I have been dating a very family-proud, inclusive young man (yes I’m a cougar now…more on that lat...

My last blog was part 1 of 2 on Cater to Your Man . The first 3 suggestions were to: 1.  Keep his belly full. The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. This is true for all men, regardless of race or age.  Know what he likes and doesn't like and please ladies, fix his plate for him. 2.  Be his biggest cheerleader. Be supportive of him in all he does. Their are going to be times we don't agree with his decisions and that's okay but we should still be supportive of him (as long as its not harmful to your relationship or you) and cheer him on when he is doing great things! 3.  Be there when he needs you. Women tend to be more emotional than men, so when he comes to you in his time of need be accessible and there for him without being judgmental or critical. Let him vent and know that you are his safe haven. These are the suggestions from my last blog. To continue, we can cater to our man by: 4.  Keep yourself up. Destiny's child said this in their song...

I would not write about anything that I don't do myself, so one thing that I have found important to me is catering to my man. Our men are dealing with the stresses of life, providing for his home successfully, and is a respected contributor to his community. When he comes home, he should come home to a woman who appreciates his achievements, loves him for who he is, supports him in all his efforts, and is there to take care of his needs. Now don't get me wrong, I am sure that some of you immediately thought "taking care of his needs" meant sexually, and that is involved BUT taking care of his needs is about CATERING TO HIM and showing him that he is the man of the house and that you are have his back. Its also about showing your adoration for him in many ways. 3 ways you can cater to your man are: * Keeping his belly full.  The saying "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" will never get old. Making sure he is fed and fixing things yo...

Today is National Feel the Love Day! Now some of you might be wondering where this "day" came from, and quite frankly, I asked myself the same question for a quick second when I heard it this morning on Streetz 103.3 . But that question instantly turned into a smile because my romantic mind started fluttering and instantly I started blushing. That is what the opportunity to be ROMANTIC does for me. Like Valentine's, I love the concept of a day to dedicate to the person you love and cherish. However, in my heart of hearts everyday should be Valentine's Day and every moment should be about feeling the love! Its so important that we let the people in our lives know how much we love them. This is not just true for our spouse or mate but also for our kids, parents, friends and family. I know that in this moment I am thinking about my father who passed away May 2, 2014. I remember how many times I told him I loved him up until his last breath. Feeling the love is ...

Last year was the first time I heard about this special romantic holiday and I took full advantage of it by taking out the guy that I was dating at the time. We had a great time and even though it was not the first time I had treated him out to dinner, he still appreciated it just as much. Men have a lot of responsibility on their shoulders- taking care of home, being father to our children, trying to make us happy everyday, and rising above the adversities of a pretty messed up social and political climate right now. Men deserve to be treated out and given special attention for all their efforts, hard work and commitment. One thing all men need is to feel needed so feeling needed and then being shown appreciation for all they do and all they are to us, is an even bigger thing for them! As women we have so many opportunities to be spoiled. Men deserve these opportunities too. Their is the expectation that men are supposed to pursue us, ROMANCE us, court us, and be the provid...