Saturday, September 17, 2016

Cater to Him- Part 1 of 2

I would not write about anything that I don't do myself, so one thing that I have found important to me is catering to my man. Our men are dealing with the stresses of life, providing for his home successfully, and is a respected contributor to his community. When he comes home, he should come home to a woman who appreciates his achievements, loves him for who he is, supports him in all his efforts, and is there to take care of his needs.
Now don't get me wrong, I am sure that some of you immediately thought "taking care of his needs" meant sexually, and that is involved BUT taking care of his needs is about CATERING TO HIM and showing him that he is the man of the house and that you are have his back. Its also about showing your adoration for him in many ways.

3 ways you can cater to your man are:
* Keeping his belly full.  The saying "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" will never get old. Making sure he is fed and fixing things you know he loves says a lot to a man. Also knowing what he does not eat, is equally important. When you cook for your man, cook out of love not out of obligation. The meal and the gesture will be perfect everytime if you do it because you want to and because you want to make sure he is satisfied.

* Be his biggest cheerleader! When he has somethng he is excited about, be excited with him. Our men face enough adversity outside the home, so we don't want him to face that when he comes home. Support him in his efforts especially when they are great ones and be his biggest cheerleader, standing by his side and rooting him on every chance of the way. If you are his biggest cheerleader, trust me (if he's a good man) then he will be your biggest supporter too.

* Be there when he needs you. As women, we tend to be the emotional ones. Men are usually passive but are all about action and doing what needs to be done. If he hits a rough patch, having a hard day, needs to vent, or gets emotional, then be there for him when he needs you. The fact that he comes to you in times of need or just to talk to you about what's on his mind says a lot about how he feels about you. Let him come to you without judging him, giving your feedback or trying to solve his problems. Listen attentively, let him know you are there for him, and be a partner in the resolution.  Men need to be problem solvers so don't tell him what to do but if he's open to suggestions, make them respectfully and be supportive with the decisions he makes (as long as they are positive and not harmful to you). You also have the right to disagree with choices without withdrawing your support for him by still being there for him when he needs you.  

These are just 3 ways you can cater to your man. Tune in for next blog on Catering to Your Man along with some of my favorite songs on the subject!

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