Thursday, August 11, 2016

Pay Attention to Body Language

Yesterday's blog was on kissing on the first date. To further the discussion on dating, we have to consider- BODY LANGUAGE.  When dating someone its really important to not just listen to them when they are talking, be attentive to their mannerisms and take every opportunity to get to know them, but it is also important especially in the early stages of dating to pay attention to the person's body language. A persons body language can answer questions you might be thinking without actually asking such as are they attracted to you? Are they interested in what you have to say? Are they sincerely interested in learning about you? Are they bored? Are they enjoying themselves? and guess what, Will they mind if you kiss or hug them?

If a person remains close to you, touches you lightly, smiles a lot, gives you eye contact, focuses on your lips when you talk to them and lets you touch the small of their back when you are walking, then this is a pretty great date that could definitely end in a kiss!
But, if a person keeps their distance, moves out of your reach, yawns or keeps looking away, is not giving you their undivided attention (especially checking or texting on their cellphone) and shy away when you go to hold their hand or touch you then your date is probably not that into you and I would not even attempt a hug!

Body language says a lot especially to a respectful man, so pay attention to your dates body language when you are out with them to make sure that you are not only keeping their interest but also before you make the first move to touch, hug or kiss them. A person that is into you will show it in the way they look, engage and focus on you. They will also show if they are not too. Pay attention to body language and you will find out (without words) where you stand. 

Now some people are hard to read or might be giving mix signals OR they might be verbally saying one thing but their body language says another. If this is the case, ask before going into their personal space and take it SLOWER. Mixed signals could be a sign of shyness, insecurity, mixed feelings about their attraction to you or not or something else not yet established. Either way, mixed signals are a sign to not invade their personal space and to take your time and because I am an advocate for No Means No. If a persons body language is saying their not interested or they aren't comfortable with you being in their personal space, then respect it, give them space, and let them lead this part of the date. 

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