Romance Queen

Today is Christmas and many of you have spent the day with family and friends. If you were not able to spend it with your lover/mate then please take the time to plan something special for the two of you after the holidays. Its important that everyone you care about and love feel the merriment of the holidays and don't feel left out. Taking time for your family and friends is great. However, your special someone should also feel your a part of your holiday even if you did not spend it together.  New Years is coming and this is a time for letting the old go and building something strong for the future. Take advantage of being out of work and reflection to talk to your special someone about what your relationship means, where you want to go and any plans for the New Years that you can plan together.  Holidays are not celebrated by all but it is still a time for celebration of love, love and ROMANCE. The holidays give you a lot of opportunities to take time off to be with...

So the holiday season is here and you are either dating someone new, dating someone for some time now or married. What do you do? As a woman who is dating during the holidays and a woman who has been single during the holidays I have to say that being single on the holidays can suck big time and dating during the holidays can be a headache. However, I do know that the purpose of the holidays is to bring families and loved ones together. So with that rationale in mind, it is important to spend time with not only your family but to make time to spend with your special someone because that's what holidays are about and if you are dating someone who is really into the holidays they will want to include you. Including your special someone in your holidays is a sign of affection, love, commitment and is a sign of the degree of your relationship. So their are some things to consider by degrees: You just started dating (Cold- Make time for each other): If you just started dat...

Someone asked me how can they can be intimate without being sexual. Below I have suggested 10 ways to be intimate (and maybe sexual too). 1. Be affectionate. Sometimes being affectionate is what you need. Touch is something that everyone needs whether its hugging, holding hands, kissing or rubbing. Touch is a way to express your appreciation, admiration and attraction to the person you love. Even in the middle of an argument or a bad day, a close hug for 30 seconds can make the situation better. Try it. It works! 2. Express yourself openly. Sometimes we hold back when we are talking to people but when it comes to communicating with our partner we should be able to talk about everything, no matter how big or small it is. Trusting your partner with detailed information about our past and our dreams and desires is important. By doing so, we open the door for our partners to reciprocate and trust us with their details too. 3. Tell someone why you love and appreciate them. Sometime...

When a person mentions "intimacy" they immediately think sex but being intimate is more about emotions and feelings then sexual intercourse. Intimacy is defined as closeness. Some synonyms for intimacy are togetherness, familiarity, affection, warmth, rapport and confidence. So intimacy can be defined as having a strong connection with someone that you are fond of that you can share your deepest feelings and emotions with that you trust to reciprocate their feelings and emotions with mutual respect. It also involves being there for someone when they need you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. The important part of being intimate with someone is that they are intimate back. You can not  be intimate by yourself. It takes two.  Some people can have good relationships but not be intimate. Intimacy can be expressed without using words, but words are the core of intimacy  because it is about expression. It involves sharing a whole range of feelings not just ...

Wiki uses the words purposeful, information, convey, meaning and shared when defining COMMUNICATION. All of those words are important to communication. Communication is purposeful. It gives us the opportunity to share purposeful information to someone that we have a relationship with. For the purpose of this blog, we use communication to convey our feelings, intent, purpose and other meaningful ideas and thoughts. This is a shared or two way task. Communication takes two. The person talking and the person listening. Listening is a tool that is sometimes ignored. Hearing someone talk and actually listening are two different things. When you hear someone you can hear their voice, you might hear their words, but you are not really comprehending or absorbing what they are saying. Listening means that you are not only hearing their voice but you can sense the tone and emotion in their voice. You are not only hearing their words, you are understanding and processing what they are saying. L...

With working parents, busy professionals and hectic lives comes less and less time for Self and ROMANCE. It is important that couples find time for each other, without the kids, to spend quality time together, enjoy each others company, renew the ROMANCE in their relationship and have time for intimacy. You can't pay the bills and maintain a household without making money, yes, but when the money is made, the bills are paid and the home is secure, their is still your relationship to make work, enforce and invest in. Make time for DATE NIGHT! Date night is important to all couples- new or old. Dating is not just for singles. Date night is for couples (committed or not) to have time together to explore each others interest, get to know each other, have downtown from the kids together, try new things together, and renew your bond- mentally, emotionally, physically, and yes spiritually! In a survey done by Redbook, 45% of couples rarely have date nights. 18% said they go on date...

Hello everyone! Hope you are having a fantastic day! October has come and is almost gone! Starting next month I am going to pick 5 people to do romance boot camp with me! I have already chosen the participants for November and super excited about it! If you feel you need some tips about romance or being romantic, then let's do this together! I'm sure your mate will be pleased that you did! Enjoy your night! Add me as a friend on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/romancequeen101 and like my Love quotes page at https://www.facebook.com/loveandsometimes/.

I took a break from writing for the month of September to start my Masters program. I struggled with making the decision to start my Masters with my twins back and school, moving into a different place and starting a new job but with the support of the man I have been dating and my best friends, I decided to go ahead and start! Relationships can not build if individuals in a relationship can not support each other and be each others cheerleaders! This goes for friendships, business partnerships and especially intimate relationships! Having the support of the person you love is one of the best forms of love and commitment. Whether you are deciding to have a child together, buy a house, start a new career, or begin your college degree, having a support system is important (especially for single moms and dads). The person you are committed to should be the person you can talk to about your dreams, goals, aspirations, desires and future. If you are committed to each other then the thin...

Hello ladies! September has been designated for TAKING your man on a date month! I love this month because it gives the ladies the chance to show their romantic side, what they like to do on dates from a woman's perspective and give the guys pointers just in case they are clueless the other months.  So whether you have one special guy or you are dating a couple guys, here are some pointers: 1. Ask him formally on a date. 2. Plan the date yourself based on things he likes to do, places he likes to go and ideas you've heard him talk about. 3. Do not make it a group event. Tho I am sure your man likes to watch the game with the boys, inviting yourself to watch it with them as your "date" is not acceptable. 4. Do things on the date that you would like him to do for you. I always think its fun to reverse the roles during the time, by opening the door for him and ordering his favorite meal off the menu. Guys get a kick out of being spoiled especially when ...

With the rise in dating services and websites, dating has become a hobby. Whether you are looking for casual dating (dating for fun and no intent of committing), hooking up, hanging out or commitment (yes you have to date first), dating has become the new thing while courting (dating with the intent of marriage) is lost. The Institute in Basic Life Principles says:  The main difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with a potential marriage partner.   Men and  women who choose to date often have no commitment to consider marrying the other person . Maturity and readiness for marriage are not considerations in the decision to date. Instead, couples usually date with the selfish goals of having fun and enjoying romantic attachments.   In contrast,  courtship is undertaken only when both parties are prepared to make a commitment to marriage . Dating tries to answer the question,  How can I find the one who w...

One thing I feel that is needed for a man to be romantic is to be a GENTLEMAN. Being a gentle man is being attentive to the needs of the women in your lives. Being a gentle man means being compassionate and understanding towards the special woman in your life. Being a gentle man means knowing her needs and wanting to meet those needs. Being a gentle man means being the man in the relationship and letting her be the woman by treating her like the Queen she is. Being a GENTLEMAN includes opening and holding the door for your special someone wherever you go, including other women that you may surround you. Opening her car door is also a nice gentlemanly act that women are not used to anymore. I know me, dating someone with old school values has told me to not touch the door when I am with him because that is his job and even I sometimes have to catch myself and not reach for the door but its a gesture I appreciate it.  Some other gentlemanly gestures that a man can do is to pic...